Are you listening?

Today a drunk man on the train told me what I needed to hear, probably even a message from God.I am very thankful I was listening.

How often is God trying to speak to you (and me), but you aren't listening because it isn't coming from who you expected it to come from.

You were expecting it from the CEO, but it came from the janitor. You're expecting it from the rich guy, but it came from the poor. You were hoping God would audibly speak what you need to hear, but instead he used a donkeys butt... (legit that's in the Bible, look it up.)

When I get on trains or buses or any public area I tried to situate myself in a place where I might have the opportunity to talk to somebody.

(I know, I'm weird.)

So I get on the train to head to New York City today and set myself in the handicapped area of the train because there's more opportunity to see people and talk to the person next to you.

Shortly after I sit down, an intoxicated guy along with one of the NJ TRANSIT conductor guys walk in to the area in the midst of an interesting conversation.

I perked up, thinking maybe the guy didn't have any money to pay for his seat, maybe I can pay for it. That was the case, and their conversation ended at the next stop when the conductor went back to checking tickets.

But alas, the drunk man stayed.

Throughout their conversation I tried making eye contact with this man, smiling, really just trying to show him I wasn't judging his demeanor or situation. It worked so that once he was free we could start talking.

I asked his name, he skipped over that and just kind of stared at me.

"What other questions do you have?"

I told him I've got thousands of questions, I love questions and I love people.

Again with a strange look, he said that he definitely didn't have time for thousands of questions, but offered his name, John, and told me to ask another question.

"Where are you from?"

"Earth." He replied with a smirk. Then he went on to say that he is from Newark, but has been around a lot of places lately.

"What is your favorite thing about Newark?"

"Past, present, or future?" he questioned.

"Present."

He then proceeded to tell me about how Newark is really coming up, there's a lot of hope on the streets. Gentrification.

He spoke of it as a good thing.

Something his city needs.

He then started talking about what it's like to be raised there, and what it's like to be born there now for kids. About how as soon as a kid is born all they see is addiction, from their parents to the person across the street. Crips and bloods.

It's all they know.

 

Here's where it gets good.

 

I asked him then:

"What can we do to help the situation?"

He looked at me intensely, paused, leaned in and said, "I know this is going to sound funny, but these kids need Jesus. And you can't get Jesus to them how you would expect, you have to try new things. Rap music. When you play rap music that has a Jesus message it goes into their head and plants good things. Do that. Try new things."

Ding.

We arrived at his stop. Newark Penn station.

He stood up and left.

I was left there just shaking my head going oh my goodness, I'm so glad I was listening.

I have been praying for Newark. A lot.

One of the neighborhoods we serve there has a ton of kids, last week I counted a conservative 60 during the two hours we serve on Friday night.

These kids are hard, so hard to the point that it almost makes me want to throw in the towel and say I can't do it.

Just like John said, they grow up with drugs, gangs, sex, violence.

A boy smacks of girl in the face. I call him out and he replies, "it's OK, I know her".

A girl gets scratched while playing a friendly game with the other kids. We walk her over to her parents to let them know what went on and that everyone's OK but just so that they know what happened in the parent flips out on the kid and asked why the kid didn't punch the other kid in the face.

A little girl tells us that she isn't an allowed to go home until after midnight because her mom is a prostitute and use of the house as her "office".

While praying for this community, I felt like God said you have to try new things.

Today, God used a drunk man on the train to reconfirm his word. Again, I'm so thankful I was listening this time.

How many times has God tried to speak to me

through unconventional people or situations and I was not ready to listen?

Let's be ready in all situations, will you join me?

 

Much love my friends.

 

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How do we cope with mental illnesses of the people we serve?

How do we cope with the mental illnesses of the people we serve on the streets of NYC & NJ?

A friend of mine just asked this question as she has a severely mentally ill woman she met.

I think that my reply deserves put out to more than just her.

I definitely feel like this thought becomes a roadblock in peoples minds around them feeling in adequate to do what I or we at New York City Relief do day in and day out.

Here is my reply:

I don't really think it's about you coping with her illness, it's about you loving her where she's at.

I, myself, guess I don't think about it when I'm interacting with people. I just try to love them how they need to be loved while I'm with them and when I'm not with them I pray that they will be healed.

There have been many people in the past few years that definitely have severe "mental illnesses", but in the same way that we don't focus on the homelessness of the people we serve, I don't think it's fair to focus on the mental illness either.

I think if we just focus on loving the person at face value that are standing in front of us, not focused on any of their flaws, God uses that to help us truly see them at their core and not see their sickness or flaws.

As hard as it is to live in the now, it's what God focuses on over and over. "don't worry about tomorrow", "daily bread", etc.

Your job is not to fix her as a person six years from now.

Your job is to love her today.

 

 

Feel free to share this if you think it can be helpful to others.

 

Much love all! ❤️